Couples Therapy in Melbourne

Relationships are like a dance - they require coordination, balance, and communication to flow smoothly. Just as a dance requires two partners to move in sync with each other, a relationship requires both partners to communicate and work together to navigate challenges and strengthen their connection. But sometimes, even the best dancers can lose their rhythm. As a couples therapist, my role is like a choreographer, guiding both partners through the steps and helping them find their rhythm again. Together, we work on improving communication, managing conflicts, improving how you repair after conflict, and strengthening the emotional bond and friendship between partners. By doing so, we create a stronger and healthier partnership that can weather any storm.

CREATING SPACE FOR OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION

I create a safe space for open communication, actively listen to both partners, help identify behaviour patterns, and guide them towards healthier communication and problem-solving skills to improve the overall health and functioning of the relationship. Just as in a dance, both partners need to be actively involved in the therapeutic process for positive changes to occur.

USING ATTACHMENT THEORY TO DEEPEN UNDERSTANDING

I draw from attachment theory to help partners understand how early experiences with caregivers may be affecting their current relationship dynamics. For example, if a partner had a caregiver who was dismissive or neglectful throughout their childhood, they may develop an avoidant attachment style and struggle to open up and form emotional connections. By helping partners develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationship, we can create a stronger and more satisfying connection. This may involve exploring feelings of vulnerability, learning to communicate needs in a healthy way, and developing greater emotional intimacy.

EMOTION-FOCUSED

My main approach to therapy with couples is emotion-focused. I focus on helping partners understand and express their emotions in a safe and supportive environment. Emotions are an important part of our human experience and play a critical role in shaping our relationships. By understanding and expressing our emotions, we can develop greater empathy and deepen our connection with our partner.

IDENTIFYING THE ROOT CAUSES OF CONFLICT

Arguments and conflicts can arise in any relationship, but it's important to address the root causes of these conflicts in order to manage them effectively. In couples therapy, we work to identify these root causes through open and honest communication. By understanding the underlying issues that are causing conflicts, we can develop more effective and sustainable ways to reconcile with them. This can lead improved ‘rupture and repair’ cycles.

UNDERSTANDING AND ADDRESSING INDIVIDUAL AND RELATIONSHIP STRESSORS

Individual and relationship stressors are inevitable in any relationship, but they can be difficult to navigate without the right tools and support. In couples therapy, we work together to understand and address these stressors. This can involve exploring past traumas, personal issues, or external factors that may be impacting your relationship, such as health issues, financial stress, parenting, family of origin conflict, and cultural or religious differences. By addressing these stressors, we can create a more supportive and empathetic space for both partners to navigate challenges.

STRENGHTHENING YOUR FRIENDSHIP AND INTIMACY

Couples therapy can also help you strengthen your friendship and intimacy. Think of it like learning a new dance routine - the more you practice and refine your steps, the more effortless and enjoyable the dance becomes. By focusing on developing a deeper emotional connection and building intimacy, couples can create a stronger foundation for their relationship. This can include activities such as spending quality time together, expressing appreciation and gratitude for each other, and exploring each other's interests and passions. By strengthening your friendship and intimacy through therapy, you can create a relationship that is not only enjoyable but also fulfilling and meaningful, just like a perfectly executed dance performance.

ADAPTABLE TO YOUR UNIQUE NEEDS AND GOALS

I'm also adaptable in my approach, as I work with what is 'live' in the session between the couple. This means that therapy will be tailored to your unique needs and goals. Whether you’re dealing with the struggles of parenting, communication breakdown, betrayals of trust, grief and loss, transitions/changes, harmful conflict styles, or you are just wanting to strengthen your partnership or explore goals together, I am here to support you and your partner.

I offer in-person therapy sessions in the north-western suburbs of Melbourne, 10km from the Melbourne CBD.

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